More for Your Marriage

While going through Biblical counseling training, the roles of husbands and wives was one of the most interesting things that I learned. It opened my eyes to ways that I was wrong, and ways I could improve the way I fulfill my role as a wife. Today we are going to look at the husband's role...tomorrow we will look at the wife's role. We are doing the husband's first because he is the HEAD of the HOUSEHOLD. It's not easy, and God does NOT take it lightly. HUSBANDS DON'T GIVE UP ON ME...TOMORROW IS THE WIFE'S TURN:) The following notes were adapted from the Faith Biblical Counseling Ministry. You can access the original ones by clicking  here . It goes into much more depth than I will today. So husbands, you should check it out. Let's talk about 3 words that describe the husband's role in marriage: 1. The husband should be a LEARNER- 1 Peter 3:7 says, "You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone

Yesterday we looked at the first part of 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. Today we will continue to examine the rest of this passage to see how God expects us to show love to others... 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 says..."Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy; does not boast; is not proud (conceited); does not act improperly (dishonor others); is not selfish; is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,, always perseveres. Love never fails. (HCSB & NIV)" Love is NOT SELFISH:  James 3:16 says,.."For where envy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every kind of evil. (HCSB)" Satan and this world try to tell us that we are #1...but God says something different. If you think about it, most arguments and fights begin because someone is being selfish and putting his/her feelings or desires before someone else's. When we argue with our sp

This will be a 2-PART entry...I will do part of it today, and the other half tomorrow...so come back tomorrow and finish it! This one is for EVERYONE...married or single, child or adult, everyone can use this to live the life that God has called us to live as Christians. Romans 13: 9-10 says..."and if there is any other commandment--all are summed up by this: Love your neighbor as yourself.  Love does no wrong to a neighbor. Love therefore, is the fulfillment of the law. " So all of our commandments are summed up with one sentence...LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF! Who is your neighbor? Everyone...spouses, children, family, friends, coworkers, strangers, enemies, people we have a hard time liking or respecting, people we don't agree with... EVERYONE. For those of us who are married, it seems that our family (spouses and children) get the short end of the stick when it comes to treating them lovingly. I don't mean that we don't ever do right by them...I just

Can anyone relate????... The toilet paper MUST hang OVER NOT UNDER! Why must you squeeze the toothpaste in the MIDDLE of the tube EVERY TIME??? Really?!? You just threw those dirty clothes on the floor A FOOT AWAY from the laundry basket?!? Is our water faucet broken? Are we out of rags? Is the dishwasher not working? Now NONE of these pictures are actually from my house...so don't go tell my hubby I ratted him out...HEHEHE.  So since this is an issue that can drive many couples to a down right knock down-drag out...Let's see what God says about how to handle ourselves, even when people are jumping on our LAST NERVE!  Philippians 2:14-15 says..."Do everything without grumbling and arguing , so that you may be blameless and pure, children of God who are faultless in a crooked and perverted generation, among whom you shine like stars in the world. (HCSB-emphasis mine)"  I have a friend who told a story about her husband leaving his clothes on t

If you haven't read Guard Your Heart Part 1, you may want to go back and read that first because this post is a continuation of the first post.  Philippians 4: 8 says..."   Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. (NIV)" If the Lord expects us to think on things that are TRUE, NOBLE, RIGHT, PURE, LOVELY, ADMIRAL, EXCELLENT, and PRAISEWORTHY, we must be careful what we put in our head/heart. 1. Be careful what you hear :  This one is a hard one for someone who likes ALL kinds of music. I have to be honest and say that when I was a teenager, I didn't listen to the BEST music out there. I can't say that if Jesus would have looked through my CD collection, I would have been proud. It would have been quite the contrary. I learned at some point in my life that music touches people. It moves peopl

Have you ever felt like God was telling you to do SOMETHING but wasn’t quite sure WHAT??? For two nights this week I have laid awake in bed with ideas and scripture running through my head. The first night I prayed for God to show me what He wanted me to do and fell asleep. Tonight…I’m wide awake, and the same ideas are running through my head again…So here goes…I guess I'm starting a BLOG??? A new experience for me... I know you have probably heard the saying that we go through trials in life so we can one day help others through the same trials… Well, as many of you probably know, I have been divorced and remarried. Since this time in my life, I have felt a huge burden for people who are going through rough times in their marriages.  The devil is on the prowl and it is his mission to destroy as many families as possible while we are still here on this earth. I can PROMISE you that I NEVER thought I would be one of “those” people who was divorced and remarried with a blended

So here is the first thing that I have found that is VITAL to making a marriage last: 1.      GUARD YOUR HEART—Proverbs 4:23 says “Guard your heart above all else (some versions say “with all diligence”), for it is the source of life (HCSB).” This verse is a VERY important one in marriage. The heart is the place where we keep all our hopes, dreams, desires, and fears. It is the place that the Lord lives in us…and if it isn’t guarded daily, satan will wriggle his way in like the slimy worm he is and give us heart worms…sorry I know that’s gross…but it’s a good analogy. When we let our guard down and satan sneaks in, it is just like having heart worms…you won’t notice for a little while, you could even go on for years and not notice the slow change…satan will slip in a few thoughts here, a few comments there, and before you know it…God and common sense are being choked out by something or someone that you didn’t see coming! That’s what he does…he slowly makes us numb to the worldl